I just feel like writing now, but talking to someone recently, makes me a tad bit inspired. I'm sure I've said this in other posts (if not then your hearing it now), real friends are hard to come by. Sometimes people lose touch and it does happen. You want to know the best way to tell what kind of friends you are after a time apart...start talking to them again, and is there any sense of distance? Can you talk to them like you never left? I've known two people like that in my life so far. I don't exactly like to "keep in touch" per say but I'll say "hi" every now and again...drop you a facebook comment...even a text or two. There are some people though who leave such an impact on you that you want to talk to them as much as possible.
I'll share a tad bit about who I'm talking about without saying any names. In 7th grade I met this girl at the end of the school year. I don't remember much about why I was in her class room, seeing as how it was a 6th grade class, but I do remember her. She had hair up to her shoulders, geeky glasses, and navy sweat pants with a blue polo. At first all I saw was her ass...frankly because she was turned away from me...taking down work from the wall as the year came to a close. Obviously that was kind of the point where I looked at her for the rest of the package. She turned around and I was fairly surprised. I go through a series of criteria for girls that are really worth my time and effort.
1: Confidence: the way you carry yourself is important...if you look like you don't mean shit...there's not much I can say.
2: Smile: You could be a Maxim cover model...but if your smile makes me throw-up a little...you are no longer attractive.
3: Humor: I like laughing, I like smiling, so the girl has to have a sense of humor...obviously.
I met this girl and all these things were met. She walked like nothing mattered (a little tomboy walk :-P), she had a great smile and she was witty with a great sense of humor. Jackpot.
We hung out some of my senior year of junior high...but I'm not sure why I never asked her out. I look back on it now and it's probably because I was a puss back then but regardless...it never happened. She was one of the good one's though. In high school we talked every now and again, but she had a boyfriend and after a time, we grew further apart. I thought about her sometimes and missed the conversations we used to have. I really didn't have any balls back then though because she lived, literally, two blocks from me...and I think I only saw her like...once or twice outside. We took the train in the morning on the way to our respective high schools once in a while. I went out of my way to take the local train which made me late sometimes...but I didn't care...I liked spending time with her.
Then she moved away...wtf. She went from being 20 seconds from me to 20 minutes. Now 20 minutes may not seem like an issue but it was in NJ. It's kind of a bitch to get over there...that and my mother didn't want me going to NJ (told you I was kind of a puss). I wanted to visit her but I never did.
Then I went off to college. Now we were really far away from each other, but by these time...we barely talked anymore. We had our cordial conversations every so often, but we were drifting further apart. I always wanted to be her friend. I wanted to be there when she needed someone for whatever reason but distance didn't help matters. She got into another relationship and I was happy for her. I got into a relationship myself and things were going great for the both of us...but that's when we really lost touch.
Recently, after months of her being gone from the internet world...and NEVER texting me back, she magically appeared on AIM. We started talking again...and it was like no time had passed at all. We joke, we talk about our lives, and I'd like to believe we both genuinely like talking to each other. I've known her since I was 12 years old, and we're still great friends to this day. I can tell her anything and I know that I have fun with her. I consider her one of my best friends.
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